Why Do People Always Come Back? | My Thoughts + Rambling

[urufu]

Hi nerds, been a hot minute.

Have you ever noticed that almost everyone that announces they're leaving SRP always comes back in one way or another, whether it be through being active on the forums again or through actually logging on and playing again. I myself quit playing SRP back in February after a mini event in which my character, Charlotte, died and I came to very very quickly regret the decision-making that lead to her unfortunate demise. In the time I've been inactive, I've been thinking a lot about the server. It makes me wonder the exact question I ask here. I think that for this question, it's important to understand why people quit to begin with.

• Something bad happens to your character that cannot be reversed​
• Something bad happens to you OOC that makes SRP feel sour​
• Simply losing interest overtime and with growing up​
• A major change to the server that you disagree with​

These are the reasons I've found through asking friends of mine that have quit why they did so as well as accounting for my own experience. And, in as respectful of a way as possible, I believe a lot of these reasons are amped up by how we feel emotionally. For me personally, I quit because as prior mentioned, my character died and I felt mad at myself, which grew into an overall bitterness toward the server. But with a clearer head I look back at that era and feel only regret. I think this is also what keeps most everyone who quits and stays quit from coming back.
This also for me gives what I think to be the main answer to my question. Regret. People who made no permanent change feel regret, which turns into desperation which in turn, brings them back.

With the question of 'Why do people come back' being for the most part answered, I suppose that leaves only my personal question for myself. Will I come back? I've been asked to a fair few times, hence why it's on my mind now. And to that I say I really want to, and who knows maybe I will. I miss my friends, I miss my characters, and I really really miss Shrine (join the Shrine faction it's brilliant), but the truth for me is simply that I don't think I can enjoy SRP without my most beloved Charlotte and without being a part of the Shrine faction. So I feel that as much as I'd like to come back in full swing, I can't and probably won't. At least not for a while.

Thanks for reading my rambling on, what are your thoughts on it?

 

[twenie1]

I feel like you should come back if its what your heart desires. To be around your friends again, and to be involved with the shrine once more. Though it isn't really my place to say what you should do, its up to your own decision-making.

One thing I /will/ say, and I mean this with zero disrespect or malice involved, I don't really understand why people leave when they lose a character. That is the beauty of roleplay and, in my opinion, what it is all about. Creative writing allows you to build up your characters and set a narrative for them, but still, although its okay to feel attached to a character, you shouldn't allow that to dishearten your potential return. Now, you get to make a new character, who you can come to love as much as you did with Charlotte.

Ive never really interacted with you before, and its unfortunate to hear you arent around on srp anymore, but you should return if you /want/ to. Again, I havent wrote this in a manner of disrespect, but curiosity, id like to understand more how people leave after this scenario, because I personally wouldnt, though we are all different.

 

[urufu]

One thing I /will/ say, and I mean this with zero disrespect or malice involved, I don't really understand why people leave when they lose a character. That is the beauty of roleplay and, in my opinion, what it is all about. Creative writing allows you to build up your characters and set a narrative for them, but still, although its okay to feel attached to a character, you shouldn't allow that to dishearten your potential return. Now, you get to make a new character, who you can come to love as much as you did with Charlotte.

I used to have this exact opinion until it happened. I think for those who genuinely love their characters and may or may not have attachment issues.. Cough cough, you genuinely do feel a deep sense of grief if things do go south. For me, it felt like I had given up two years of character development for absolutely zero pay off and it just made me overall really bitter I suppose.

I may come back one day. I feel like I am stalling on it because coming back and trying to rejoin shrine after every emotion I've expressed about SRP, it would be like a massive walk of shame LOL